Anne, bravo to your DH for making such a decision. He's scared about it, but he really has to think positively about it. Try to get him to think positively about not having the same thing happen to him as happened to his dad. I know that's probably a tough road to hoe in the mind. But it'll get him in the best place to be mentally for the surgery.

Good for YOU for asking for help. Hopefully whatever is stuck in the system will get unstuck and you get the assistance you need. I don't know if you can manage it financially, but you may be able to temporarily rent some assistive devices from a home medical supply company if the other help doesn't come forward in time.

Knees are tough. I spent 9 mos in physical therapy after a car accident and shoulder surgery in 1994 and saw a lot of patients come through with knee surgeries. Those who did what their therapist told them to do got better quicker. Encourage him. He's going to have it tough with both of them at once, but he knows that in advance. Little advances are good ones. Perspective is going to help.

to you both. And my prayers will be covering you two as well.