Aww, Gazelle, I'm sorry it conjured up sad memories for you.
Believe me, I know how you feel. It seems the holidays always bring back memories of those we've lost....good times we've shared with them and that gnawing hurt that only losing someone we love can cause.
I have no easy answers or quick fixes. I just get through it as best I can. It never gets any easier but time does dull the pain a little.