I think that those of us who try and fight the system so to speak are the ones who are ostracized. When we confront those who are mean or we speak our peace then we are "in trouble".
Funny huh? I was brought up to speak my mind and be independent and now I am being punished for it.
I guess when major issues are swept under the carpet only then are our families are comfortable with us. Glenn (good to see you around by the way!) that is why your brother is accepted and you aren't. He doesn't say anything, he just does while you question what you see isn't quite right and you are looked down upon.
You just can't pick family....wish I could though.