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Join Date: Sep 2006
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Legendary
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Posts: 18,914
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http://www.bellaonline.com/articles/art28129.asp
How to Stop Feeling Guilty
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~Stop being your own judge and jury: failure and success are matters of perception; today’s failure could be tomorrow’s success. Learn from your experiences.
~Know your contribution to the table of life; what is your specific talent? If you don’t know, think back to your last success – no matter how far back you have to go - because artists along with gods and goddesses have nothing to feel guilty about.
Start to feel like the CEO of your life.
~Make a commercial complete with a jingle that you can recite to yourself and to anyone who will listen to you!
For example, “I’m worth it!” I borrowed this from the Loreal commercial. Sing it, whistle it, chant it or use it as a screensaver - until it becomes a part of you.
~Practice expressing what you need and want. Begin with little things and see how that works for you and how good that makes you feel.
“Honey, could you please bring me the morning paper, and a cup of coffee.” Note the surprise on their faces when you ask. Affirm and compliment those who carry out your bidding.
~Create a personal haven, a space, for yourself at home. This could be a corner of a room, a desk, or the bathtub decorated with bubbles and candles.
~Every day treat yourself to something special and savor it. For me it’s dark chocolate.
~Unburden your heart to a good friend who will help you to reinterpret your guilt.
~Find an animal to symbolize who you are the way Native American Indians built their totem poles.
Try not to choose a chicken! A tiger is a better choice.
Tigers don’t feel guilty.
~Find a color to inspire your guilt-free existence: red for energy to combat guilt, green to heal from your guilty emotions, blue to spiritually soar above them, orange to cheerfully express yourself, yellow to use your intellect to reason your guilt away.
Wear this color daily (doesn’t have to be anything big, even a ribbon is fine) and put it in your personal space to remind you.
~Have regular logical dialogues with yourself when you feel guilty. Remember that guilt is illogical. So reason it away! Even if you made a mistake, assume responsibility and move on. Guilt will paralyze you.
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