Bdix I very much relate to some things you have mentioned!!

Sleep has always been a HUGE issue. He did not sleep for more than 20mins at a time for the first year. Doctors told me it was Colic, then reflux. Nothing helped. I resigned myself to the fact that no new mums get enough sleep. He did not sleep for more than 2 hours until 6 months ago. A year ago a Specialist decided it was his tonsils causing him to wake, and promptly removed them. There was no improvement. It seems to be something he's finally grown out of BUT I still literally have to drag him out of bed each day like a grumpy old bear- no matter how much sleep he gets.

I also relate to the anger!! Not only did he start hurting himself when he was finally mobile, but hurting others. I didn't think too much of it, thought he was too small to understand but the older he gets and the more he understands, the more hurtful he becomes. He split my partner's head open with a glass at 2, split my lip weekly with anything within reach, would headbut when he couldn't do nothing else, bite, kick, headbut walls. He actually made my partner black out once by trying to choke him He genuinely thinks one night he will wake up with my son standing over him about to kill him and believe it or not, he threatens it regularly.

EVERYTHING is a battle, every day. Getting up, getting dressed, every meal, bathing, getting dry, bedtime stories, going to sleep, grocery shopping (forget any other kind of shopping). I've slowly gotten used to this and learnt what not to say or do to make matters worse, but if we're in a hurry to go somewhere we either can't make it or it's WW3.

He can be such a sweet, happy little boy when he wants to be but I am starting to suspect that he really does hate me Nothing delights him more than being as hurtful as he can. When he is screaming that he hates me I always respond with "well I love you" and he only gets angrier and he will say "no you have to hate me" but no matter what he says or does, I could never!!

Does anyone know where I can go or who to talk to in NSW Australia? I read an article last night (I can't post links yet but please let me know if you'd like to take a look) and the likelihood of getting professional help does not sound promising for us. Quote: "Every kid's mood goes up and down during the course of the day", "The response from most of the rest of the world is that the Americans have gone hysterical." This is in part the same attitude I've been met with when we've mentioned any of this to anyone reliable like grandparents etc. It's very disheartening when we know something is very wrong.

Thank you for the links Jaspar, much appreciated and I'll take a look at these now.