I can see what the therapist is trying to do; but when it comes to the woman crying I'm with you. There is no way I could sit there and watch someone's heart breaking and do nothing while they cry. The little pat was an act of kindness and empathy, not co dependancy. You didn't try to talk for her, you didn't try to interfere with her grieving...you just offered a kind hand.

I am glad that you have goals for these groups! You will be able to take what you need, and use those parts to your advantage!