I have been reading this book entitiled
Feel the fear and do it anyway.

I think it should be a must read for everyone who has issues.

Some truths about fear.
The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it. Sounds easy right!
Not only am I going to expereince fear when ever I am on unfamiliar territory, so is everyone else. I am not alone!
Pushing thru fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes along with the feeling of hopelessness.
There is security in our little cocoon, though we fear the day of reckoning.

I will have less fear knowing that I can handle whatever comes along.

Some ways to not be a victim:
take responsibility.
never blaming someone else or external forces.
I control my thinking and actions.
Don't make yourself a victimof yourself.
I am doing the best that I can.
I can only make myself happy.
Stop the chatter box in your head the obcessing negativity.
learn how to enjoy alone time to yourself.
It means being aware of the pay offs that keep you stuck.
Make choices, you choose to stay in a job that you don't like because it is easier than starting over. ...it is easy, comfortable, avoid possible rejection in interviews, don't have to question my competance, don't have to expend alot of energy. The job is secure.
If you don't like your job you have many choices, quit, stay and be miserable, stay and make the most of it and choose to enjoy it.
the later is powerful and not a victim.
figure out what I want in life and acting on it, set goals and then go out and work toward them.
It is all about choices. THere are a multitude of choices you have in any situation, you choose what you do and how you react to things.
It is your choice.