Before Math: ( x + y )2 = x2 + 2xy + y2
After Math(test): cocktail, cigars, beer, and chip (for passing the test)
if life was that way, it would've been easier, wouldn't it??
unfortunately, in life
Before Math: suicide
After Math: Anger, tears, Anger, depression, Anger, (maybe cocktail or two but for the wrong reasons cause we ain't celebrating), headache, maybe drugs, anger, anger, anger, anger, anger...
did I mention that there are ANGER in aftermath??
then maybe..."TALK"
It is so hard for people to talk...all the other ones are easy to do, anger, drinking, depression, drugs, headaches....
but talking...*sigh...
this is an eye opening post that most folks feel deep inside but probably can't "see" it because they are so blinded by the aftermath...
thanks for posting this...
for the room
Quote:
Originally Posted by Alffe
If I don't talk about What Happened, Will It still Continue to Bother Me? Can the Pain Ever Go Away on It's Own?
Anything upsetting that you push out of your consicous mind will eventually end up "biting you in the back." Not talking about the suicide or your feelings will not make your pain go away; you may begin to have nightmares, develop migraines, start to drink or do drugs, or even become sick.
In the early stages of grief, however, you may prefer not to think about the suicide of your loved one. You may cope better by trying to put your loss out of your mind for a while. You may even feel worse if you talk about it. If you feel a bit better - or get some respite for a few hours - by going back to work or busying yourself with some task, then go right ahead. This may be normal for you. You may be able to speak about what happened later or when you find someone you're comfortable talking to.
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Touched by Suicide Hope and Healing After Loss
by Michael Myers, M.D. and Carla Fine
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