Sue, my sweety feels the same way, and speaking as someone on the other end, we do not feel that our RSD sweethearts are burdens. I tell Reed constantly that I want to do things for him.. if it were me, he would take care of me and help me too. No, it isn't what I thought it would be, but it's not for him either. That's life, and we take as it comes. I feel like the best thing I can do for him is to support him, love him, push him to not give up, and yes, kick his butt every now and then when he gets into a funk. Please don't feel as if you're a burden, you are still the same person , and your family loves you. I tell Reed that he's just a little "higher maintenance" than I expected. That always gets a little laugh from him. For what it's worth, he's still my Superman, and always will be..regardless of what he can or can't do physically.