Hi,
I posted on another thread and I have no answers for your issue, but wanted to say, we've been through something kind of similiar. We've struggled with my DD 18 since she was in pre-school. Everyone said ADD (she was not hyper at all). We are once again on ADD meds, hopefully they work this time. She didn't take ADD meds until she was 16, I was really against it for a long time and finally gave in and was willing to try anything that may help. But I think it's all a big guess and you have to do what you think is best for your child, even if it means getting several opinions.

Best of luck!