This is an informative thread. For now I also have a supportive spouse when it comes to financial things which I know is huge and I am very thankful. As for MS though he pretends it doesn't exist and I know that if/when I am not able to function at a decent clip it will be very difficult for him to accept and also nearly impossible for me to be gracious.

Like you feel about your children having a nice life is also how I feel about my husband. I don't want to be a burden to anyone and work like a dog now in hopes of banking enough money for the time if/when I need to hire someone to help with my ADLs.

I guess what I'm saying is that with many spouses, even really good ones, the bottom line is that most of us are now or will be alone with this nasty disease in the end. That is why so my friends here mean so much because they totally get it. There aren't too many wonderful spouses like Jim's Sandy ya know.