Seara I'm sorry your family is like that. Sometimes I wonder which is worse.....not having any (or very much) family or having family that seems oblivious to our challenges.

Just do what you feel you can comfortably do and do it for yourself....for your own enjoyment....and when someone notices that something didn't get done they can do it themselves or do without it! I know, much easier said than done....and I'm the worst at taking my own advice.....but we understand what you mean and you can come here anytime and cry or whine or vent or celebrate.....we're an equal opportunity shoulder!!