(((Seara)))

I'm so sorry to hear about the problems with the family. Double hard around the holidays.

I like Ali's idea about writing a letter. I know hubby and I had to have a major talk when all this started. Both to let him know I would need help and for him to let me know to open my mouth when I needed help.

For me, it took me a long time to get to the point of asking for help. I'm a perfectionist in heart, and no one seems to do it the right (aka my ) way. But I've learned to not let it get to me as much anymore. And like Kitty said, if it doesn't get done even with my asking for help, it just won't get done.

My MIL still doesn't get it, but that's her nature. My family gets it all to well because of family history, and that can be almost as annoying since I have to reassure them quite a bit.

Hope things get better soon for you.