Your post jester sent me to the bookshelf....Here is what Paul Quinnett says about survivors in his book..Suicide, The Forever Decision...

"They are shocked. They cannot believe what has happened. They are numb and in pain. It is as if they are caught up in a nightmare and when they awake, the nightmare goes on and on. Feeling confused and dazed, they wonder if they will ever get over your death or if things will ever be normal again.

They are sad. Once the Shock and the numbness wears off, the survivors of suicide enter a time of great and unremitting sadness. Unprepared as they are, the pain can be almost physical, and inspite of an occasional good day or light moment, the sadness sweeps over them again and again.

They are angry. Though they wish not to be, they cannot help but to feel anger towards you. You have taken something precious from them and there is no getting it back."

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My words here....talking about your feelings will help you on this long journey of grief...we are here for you.