Dear Pam,

Of course it hurts to make a big move like the one you are contemplating, esp. since it will effect other people.
Also, it is natural and ok to have conflicting feelings.
Try to take it easy on yourself.

I started a thread about Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.
I don't know how highly regarded he is in psychology now but I remember reading him in school. He is concerned about how we get our needs met. He talks about how important it is to feel safe.

I hope you can feel safe in your living environment.

Mari