My post follows some very sage advice
When I go through a flare-up, I get really ticked off

I want to be able to read, make a cup of coffee and do whatever -- without having to ask for help for any of it.
I just tell myself that the flare will pass and I will be able to make that coffee myself.
It's the goal that keeps me going.
Focus on a goal! That's my small bit of advice
Cheers!
Niko