DM, I am SO sorry that you are going through all of this and please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers at this difficult time!
We have all missed you terribly but we totally understand that sometimes you just need to "step away" for a little bit to try and get health and personal issues back on track. We will all be here for you whenever you need a shoulder to lean on and when you feel up to coming back.
In the meantime though, you are in my thoughts and prayers and I hope things get better for you all real soon ... you have been through so much this past year and I hope and pray that 2009 is a better year for you!!