I don't know, DM, are white hats 'allowed' after labor day, tehe . I understand and feel for you . His year has been awful . My Grandmother had to be moved to a NH a few years ago due to Alzheimer's. My uncle put up a fight about it, he lost. He wasn't the one who took care of her, my mom did. It was the best decision for my gram, she was becoming a danger to herself. She wasn't happy about it, to say the least. Now she's doing quite well there . I like to think that if we were't a bit depressed, stressed and overwhelmed we wouldn't be 'normal' . Don't feel bad for letting us know what's going on with you! That's what we're here for! Sometimes I disappear from NT for couple of weeks at a time. It's okay to do that . My baby sis, she's 35, has severe bone loss too. Her feet are practically disintegrating. She dreads her density testing. She won't get tested for any underlying causes because she really doesn't want a dx. She has chronic bladder an kidney infections too. My family is an autoimmune trainwreck. I hope you get some relief from all of this soon. Many and much love too you, Mary Ann.