I feel you are doing the right thing. I couldn't stand all the tention either. My son is wanting help too, but when I write I have got to turn him down. I don't want to, but it is money wasted.

He too, would drive me nuts if he got out. He always did. I too can't stand it. I know how hard this is, but you know it is the right thing to do. Same with me. I hope things work out for you. keep in touch.
Hugs,
Billie