Yes this sounds like Jacob also, except for Jacob can't, or I haven't quite figured out yet if he won't, care for himself. I don't ever see him living on his own. I see him in an assisted living environment. I really need to get busy and apply for SSI for Jacob. I think that once they do the cognitive testing on him alot of services and opportunities at school will open up to him and if he becomes more productive at school and involved in other programs it will help his self-esteem. Thank you for the note, I'm feeling a lot more hopeful these days.