Well, I called my sister by accident this evening thinking I dialed a friend's number. I came right out and asked her if she had spend the money I sent to her and she said no she was holding onto it for an emergency. So in essence she used her money for Christmas for her family and is holding onto the money I gave to her for an emergency now because she must be low in the cash she considered separate from the money I sent to her. When I asked her to repeat herself she changed her story to something completely different. The 2nd story she gave me was she hasn't had time to go shopping without her family. She went on to explain if she took her family they'd expect her to spend the money I sent to her for her on them instead.

You know what really hurts me is that my sister is bending over backwards to lie to me. I can not trust some one who will lie to me like that and it hurts me she is doing this to me. I'm going to confront her when I can decide what to say without so much emotion. I just can not go on with a relationship with her like I've always done since her and I hooked up about 12 years ago by phone. I told her it was okay for her to tell me if she spent the money. She had to justify herself though by lying to me. I think I'm going to tell her exaxtly how I feel about it. I'm going to tell her that I am hurt by what she said. I'm not going to make her accountable or ask for the money back. I'm just going to tell her that she's lost my trust in her though. I will take my time though to think out how to word it to her.

barbara