So sorry Shez.... sounds like an ugly tangle I also wish i had answers but I am not well versed in this area ...YET! Is there an advocate group you can contact for some basic help in understanding this scenario? (i.e. I have an advocate group thru my Long Term Disability insurance who are trying to get me SSDI.)
And keep on asking questions, its not a made up language- its just hard to speak. The county employees should apply some patience with those of us that are doing are best to speak S.S.!!
best of luck