I lay my head on a heating pad, the heat just feels so good and I wear a tobagon as well! I had been having trouble with taking a shower too, mainly b/c it was so painful, but my husband bought an awesome new shower head that was as soft as rain, so I turn up the hot water as much as I can stand and just let the water run, it def makes me feel better, so I know what u are describing! I have atypical TN as well!