BJ, I know that your dad did not hate you...you are much too lovable for anyone to hate you...of course I know you won't believe that.

My old neighbor, who lost her son last March to suicide is married to a very stoic man...and even though she knows this..she thought that he would be able to share their grief, offer her some comfort...but no. He can't...he doesn't even cry...tears up but they don't fall. She tries so hard to understand this behavior, to forgive him for being incapable of grieving in a "normal" way...but she needs comforting herself.

And there is a man I've been talking to on the phone, who lost a son three yrs ago to suicide. Said he has yet to cry over it. ~sigh

It's so hard to understand someone else's way of grieving. And since you have already read Lament for a Son...give me your honest opinion about whether I should send it to my neighbor...it hasn't been a year yet since she lost her son.