Originally Posted by jaded2nite

I am in a tough position and I guess I need to vent. Maybe someone has some advice?

A little background.... My Mom moved in with me 9 1/2 yrs ago after my Dad and grandmother died. My dad went first very suddenly. Then My Mom became caretaker for my grandmother. After My grandmother died i invited my Mom to stay with me......share my home ect.

My Mom has some health issues, her meds take all of her meager social security income. She has no retirement. When she meets the so called donut hole in social security which is typically mid June each year I pay for her meds.

3 years ago she asked if her brother could come and stay with us for the winters. I said ok but, he would have to pay something. He agreed, he pays 200.00 per month. He came for a winter and never left. His health is ok.....he drinks EVERYDAY! always has always will.

I will eventually be the care giver to both of them. I am the only one they have. My siblings are useless, its all on me.

Now the problem....Mom has asked me if her best friend can come and stay with us. I love this lady, but her health is not good. I feel like I am going to be caregiver for these 3 elderly people and they will suck me dry. I fully intended to care for my Mom, I have no concerns there. I knew when I asked her to live with me it would be forever.

But I didn't sign up for all this. I am a single 48 year old woman that thought I would have a life. I feel like I'm giving up my life so my Mom can enjoy hers.

I know I'm sounding selfish and trust me I feel so guilty for it, but I can't help but feel I will take care of all 3 of them and I will end up all alone because I gave up my life to care for them

How do I say no to her friend coming to stay? My Mom has not made any friends since she moved in with me. SO for her it will be good. Maybe she will get out more and meet more people.

I just don't know what to do!!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Dottie