Ahh Roz .....that sucks- but life is what it is and ya gotta suck it up like you say unfortunately ,or it will get you,instead of you getting it -Get it?
That does not mean however that you cannot mourn and be sad at your recent losses and hopes and dreams .You just have to move on(eventually).
One day at a time,it will all work out ..
Somehow it isn't as unmanageable that way...and traffic won't come at you from all directions all at once-maybe one freeway at a time.
I know the traffic here has become unbearable .It is so hard to get things done-but we are not islands that can do everything alone.Help is a good thing.

You have a wonderful heart thinking of the renters but you must think how this move will best serve your family - your son.That is the most important dynamic here.

On another note my PM doc does a minor treatment with wydase.He calls it a meat tenderizer for scar tissue - not sure if I would use that analogy.
Anyway -if I feel my TOS acting up on either side (about every year and a half it gets to that point ) he does a day procedure similar to a block in experience and time whereby through fluroscopy he puts wydase on the scalene area .It breaks up scar tissue over the ensuing 2 week period ( hence the tenderizer as opposed to immediate ketchup effect???) and I do feel a whole lot better.So decompression out - wydase in!
Moving by yourself - still out

Much peace
GnP