Suzanne,

I can really understand what you are saying about your husband's will and determination. I just happen to be in a position, because of your posts, to experience more directly YOUR amazing will and determination - not to mention your sensitivity, resourcefulness, willingness to accept input, and most of all, your courage.

I am happy to hear that you do have help from your mother - and it sounds like maybe some others as well. I urge to continue to use any and all potential help and not let normal anxieties and so forth to deter you. This is an extraordinary situation. Not only are you entitled to help, but in order to respect and honor both your husband's needs and your own, you must not turn away from any significant, possibly available help.

I have a strong sense that your priorities are well matched to your current situation. Something tells me that you will do whatever you can and need to do in order to be true to your self and to your relationship with your husband.

I will continue to hold a good thought for both of you.

rfinney