It appears I am just a pain in the **** trying to ruin her party. Her daughter contacted "one of the nurses" my friend works with, and she saw no problem with this party. My problem with this is that this nurse is not responsible for this woman, and may not even be a nurse... you ever notice how people refer to themselves with titles they do not own? I work in a hospital where people do that allllllll the time.

So, what am I supposed to do?

I did put another call in to the doctor as I was typing this... not that it is an answer... they give you the whole HIPPA response, but I asked for general info... such as "is it a bad idea to have a huge surprise party for someone in their house right after their 4th chemo"
yech..