Vicc, you are a very intelligent man, and one with a degree in social work. I'm sure it's a "no brainer" to you also that if you can find a reason for your deteriorating weight loss, then you will also, more than likely, gain some of your strength back. And, it's also a "no brainer" that the way to go about tackling several issues at once is to take them one at a time. So...focusing just on the weight loss:

What has your doctor said about your weight loss?

What have YOU done about your weight loss?

Is your weight loss because you aren't eating more calories than you need to maintain your current weight?

Is your weight loss because of a medication you are taking?

As for your depression...again, being a social worker, you know why you are depressed. And you also know that people with depression cannot just "snap out of it." You know you have ptsd, and you also know you have an abusive wife that you are not willing to leave. You also know that I run a website (in my signature line) that if you go to, has a section on "domestic abuse" with some very good articles and websites. There are also other resources all over the web. You also know, being a social worker, that you "fit" into the classic "victim" category for domestic abuse. You also know why you stay. perhaps there is the hope that things will change, perhap you remember how she "used" to be, whatever. You have the degree, and most likely you studied this issue in your quest for that degree.

Additionally, "doctors make their own worst patients" and being so, so do social workers and/or counselors. You need to get your OWN counselor...someone to help you work thru these issues in your own mind. Let me ask you....


I thought about this all weekend, and wondered what your answer to that would be, so could you answer it for me, so I don't have to "guess" anymore?