Holly and Victor,
I'm so sorry that you and your family members are dealing with this.It is so difficult to see a loved one suffer with this type of cancer...my mom died days after being dxd with lung cancer. She was given 6 mos. to live, but she gave up.
We pray that your family members will have successful treatment...and will have a full-quality life for as long as possible.
Just make sure to take time for yourselves...you need to be strong, too...