I am sure many people think they "know" that once their family gets over the shock, that they will be better off without them. So they think they are doing them a favor. I remember one time feeling so insignificant that I was shocked when an automatic door detected my presence and open for me. I had totally expected to have to push it open. A few months later, I was reading a magazine and a woman was telling the same story, Imagine how many people must feel this way-so insignificant and yet such a burden.