I have those dreams often, but luckily I awaken before it's too late...but I have had problems lately where I don't make it to the bathroom in time and I can't stop once I start...I have to change my clothes... it's so humiliating...
now I have problems getting to the bathroom on time for the other kind of bathroom visit...
what's really weird is sometimes I'll be doing my thing in the bathroom, and I'm not sure if I'm dreaming or awake...I pinch myself to make sure I'm awake...weird
I guess we have to learn to shrug our shoulders and make the best of it...glad your DH is with you on this...makes it easier...