Melody, what a predicament you are in!

I'll pass along the best advice I was ever given.

My son was going to get arrested and have to go to jail if I didn't DO something. I cornered my clergyman and waah waahed to him nonstop for about 20 min. When I finally ran outta things to say, I asked, "So what should I do?"

He smiled and calmly said, "Just love'em." He didn't elaborate and he didn't need to. I knew it wasn't up to ME to bail the kid out, and that he needed to suffer the consequences so he could learn from his mistakes.

That's been a lot of years ago. My dear clergyman has since passed away, but I've always remembered that good advice.

Mel, you don't have to save your friend. Just love her.