Twinks:

I've been "loving" her for 3 years. Including all the times her son has been hospitalized for pancreatitis, and all the fights.

It's not easy being on the phone every single night with someone who cries constantly and then drinks themselves into oblivion.

I know about "not rescuing" anyone. Believe me, I KNOW!!!

No one can help her.

But I just want a simple reply to give her when she calls me and she's belligerant, starts blaming me for her woes, starts bringing up my former obesity and says stuff like 'well, you wouldn't listen to anyone, you took your sweet time to lose your weight". blah blah.

I know that when people are active in their addiction, that they say these things. I know this.

I also know that at my age, I really don't want to go through this.

I'm in a good peaceful place. Took me a long time to get where I am.

I care about myself, about Alan and we take care of each other.

I grow my sprouts, I take excellent care of us.

I really don't want to hear ranting and raving any more.

I just need a good "reply" for when she calls and says: "don't abandon me'.

By the way, she called two times tonight and she'll continue to do this "leave crying messages on the phone". Alan said quietly to me "I heard her" I did return one phone call.

I just can't keep doing this any more.

Puleeeeze.

Melody