Nikko,
It sure doesn't seem fair when we have to become the parent to our parent does it? You are handling so much and I wish I had something to offer.
All I can say is that this is a wonderful site, for venting, support and advice from those who are in a similar situation.
Make sure you take time to take care of you. You are important and you need to stay healthy. Don't look at it as being selfish if you take some time for you, it is vital!!!!!!!!!!!!
Take good care,
Judy