another thing, is she constantly very fatigued and cannot get enough refreshing sleep?
I think I've seen mentioned a flu type ache and tiredness.

tender point locations-
http://www.fmnetnews.com/basics-criteria.php
http://www.fmpartnership.org/tender_points.htm

I like this site -
http://www.sover.net/~devstar/
and this one - it seems to be a bit different than i recall -
http://www.drlowe.com/geninfo/hypothes.htm
this is the page i was looking for-
http://www.drlowe.com/triggerpoint.htm