Lara, I hear what you are saying and I think everyone else is just going to have to abide by your wishes...you've adjusted to it, worked your way thru it and it has to be very unsettling for some strangers to decide to stir the pot for whatever their reasons. It's impossible to miss something you never had...people have trouble getting that when "they" have a different agenda.

We mellow with age but we don't turn into something we've never been...at least most people don't...we evolve thru what we have experienced in our lives...both present and past.

Do your children have curiousity about their grandparents relatives?

I think you are feeling the right things...including anger. (((Lara)))