I like to voice an unpopular opnion and say that I myself think this is a good idea.

There have been so many debates over the years about what a forum entails...

Suicide IS a serious subject, but then it gets serious'ed out quickly.

I can remember the times that "I", myself, get out of topic many times and would get myself into trouble...

that's my personality, that's me. I cannot change it but I have tried very hard to curtail it.

And I did try to leave a few times because I just feel like I am not sure what else to do. Do I compromise who I am and worry about every single Harry and **** and Tom that I would/am going offend or do I keep on being who I am?

as in life, I am not perfect and I HAVE to respect others and strive to be the best that I can to be a part of a community. But at the same time, I need to have an individual voice.

Truth is, everyone will say something that will offend someone somewhere sometimes.

talk about bacterias and someone who loves bacterias will shot back at you. TRUST ME, it's happened....

I have tried to leave because I can remember the times in the years that my joking around was taken the bad way, or people would feel like that I am NOT being serious enough.

I get a bit bummed because ALL my serious efforts were overlooked....since we're being honest, I'll just be bloody honest.

I try to show support as much as I joke around, but it is always my joking around that gets the "attention" of those that wants to be serious....

when I look at some 10 threads could go at one time and 5 people are asking for help. I like to think that I have answer all those 5 people that need help as well as the other 5 that are posting, maybe light heartedly but that's HOW they would open up.

I know for me, that's how I open up sometimes...I've had a bad day today, from the time I woke up to now...and I am not sure I can come in here and gripe and vent and talk about my day. If some wants to, that would be perfectly fine. But right now, I feel like I would like to talk about how mosquitos make me itch...

is that off topic? Yes, is that how I vent off my pain? YES...

yet, as I would view the forum a a whole, talking about it seriously would just halt the forum eventually...

that's the key, for me, AS A WHOLE...

the whole forum as a whole...is to accept and understand all that comes here....some will open up slowly, some will open up immediately, some will feel offended if they are not being paid attention to even if the attention IS being paid to, some will take forever to even hit the thanks button...

I lurked at NT for close to a few months before I even decided to join...that's how shy I actually am...

I have learned to become a NEWBIE and trying to look in and see what would have happened...

I wondered how many folks I offended with my flying rat or my post about mosquitos?

I wonder that those off topic even though I wrote: OFF TOPIC would still fend off others...yet, I consider the SOS forum my home. It is because of the dynamics of years of friendship building...it makes it hard to leave but I have a built in personality that I have tried very hard to tone down...

and I have to believe deep inside my heart that people WILL see my heart and how MUCH I care...that they will overlook that and see that I,myself, try very hard to be compassionate and understanding because I TRULY do care...as MANY of us here that care..

but, just like politics, ALL of us that care will share different opinions, all of us that care will share different views...it IS a melting pot, it IS supposed to be...

I am not trying to fault anybody as it IS what it is....

but I think a separate forum is NOT going to hurt this forum. I have discussed this in private with some and I, myself think it is a good idea. It probably won't be a POPULAR one...but I think it'll bring comfort to some of us that just really don't feel comfortable enough venturing else where...

it is like a house. I hang out at the kitchen a lot because I like to eat....but moss isn't as gluttonous as I am, so she hangs out somewhere else...but still,we're in the SAME house, together....

in a time when a lot of us are asking for changes in our gov't....and wanting to give it a chance. I wonder that we should give this place a shot before we say yay or nay to it...

please know that I am not offended at anyone else's opinion and I HOPE that no one else is offended at mine.

But for me...I have been feeling uncomfortable talking about rats and mosquitos and I feel that this would be safe place for me to discuss those things.

If anyone have found those offensive, I sincerely apologize...I have worked very hard at being serious. And as I've said, I have tried very hard to curtail myself...but being me is being me...without that part of me. I just cannot see myself anywhere anymore....

*bigsigh...
thanks for listening and I THANK you, Doc, for creating this...but this is a democracy and if most feel that it is NOT good for the forum, then, let the majority vote for it...

my cast is YES, and it is NOT against anybody's opnion, just my own..

We need both, life is yin and yang...a balance....



PS, how about that? I am being serious in a not so serious forum.