now, before I get smacked around for hide yakking the heckit outta yer thread, let me just say this. LOL
I think that there ARE times that we just want to be heard and NOT told:
"look, it'll get better"
"the sun always shines"
"chin up, sit straight"
and I know for me, when I am in my darkest, I simply just cannot let anything go into my ears cause I simply tune it out.
But I do appreciate the times when I DON'T want to hear it and people are still injecting them into me.
I think it depends on situations. A lot of times when moss and I talk we would ask each other. OK, do you want advice or do you just want to vent.
Communication is ALWAYS the key...and it has to be a TWO way street. We cannot read the other person's mind so we just never know, ya know??
I tend to go overboard myself when I start to care. And there are those that just wanted to be left alone. But if they tell me, I absolutely would leave them alone...but if they don't tell me. I only have body languages and eye rollings to go by...
I think you do fine, Sandy...keep that communication open....
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Originally Posted by SandyC
Just to clarify, I didn't mean just me in particular. I'm not fishing for compliments for myself unlike Mwa.  I am just curious and wondering how many of us you want to smack around every once in awhile. Kind of like "Here, take my shoes and frickin' walk in them already and shut up!"
Don't get me wrong, I know I am appreciated by Jim and others. I don't need anyone telling me that. But sometimes I wonder how often you get tired of the "sun is shining" attitude? Like, sometimes, what else do you want to hear? I know sometimes for Jim he just wants to be heard, no answers, no how to fix it, just heard.
I think as carepartners sometimes we want to fix everything and often times we may go overboard to do so when all you really want is an ear to listen or a shoulder to lean on. You know? |