First, Bless you! not many truly understand just how hard it is to do what you have taken on. Emotionally, mentally, and physically. Bless you!

Please have a talk with her Hospice nurse, and explain to them that you feel dismissed when you get pat answers like "just give her more morphine" Most hospice places understand that they have 2 patients. the patient, and their families. Since you are the one in charge when no nurses are near, you deserve better answers than "just give her more morphine." Explain to her care nurse that it scares you when things like this happen, and you want better directions, and explainations. If the answer truly is "give her more morphene" thats ok, but you would like it to be explained why that is the right answer. Hopefully in the future, you will be getting better, more complete answers instead of just directions on what to do.