I've got a medication hangover and can not think too good at the moment to comment much. I can put enough thougts together though to say that as someone who has been abused I tend to maybe feed into the toxic peoples's ways of triggering me to the point of reliving a type of shell shock syndrome. I am use to being appeasing to these types of narcissisits while face to face with them as to instinctively diffuse what I see as worse to come if I don't. Yea, they can see that in my facial expressions and comments I'm sure.

Now I just re read you comments Waves. I did cut off my freindship with a male neighbor of mine thinking if I didn't it would make the situation between my next door neighbor and me worse. So I did change my way to suit her which is what she wanted I'm sure to start with. I gave up and changed my behavior.

barbara