Dear Befuddled,
I love how people feel free to give you advice. Tell them to stop.

And you are right -- people who have not moved have no idea of the prices invovled. And people remember when they were 19 and their two buddies helped them move a couch, tv, and a dresser. 20 years later they are surprised that people need to pay someone to move. Well 20 years later WE HAVE MORE STUFF.

Sometimes, if you can afford it, it is better to work with professionals than with friends or family.

OK. Sorry but I have to ask. ....kinda wierd about the two cousins marrying. yeah I know that these marriages are legal in 19 or so states. still, it is not common as far as I know.

Befuddled, there are lots and lots of nice people in the world. You will find these people as you start to make your own life for yourslef.

I think that getting out of that house will help change things for you.

Good luck
Mari