I am so sorry that the hospital put you through that. It sounds more like plain laziness than anything else.
There is a lot involved in keeping a patient breathing until the procurement crew(s) can get there.
I live in a small city in northern Michigan and the crews had to come from quite a distance. The donor was in the intensive care unit for at least 2 days before everything could be arranged.
This requires keeping all the organs they can functioning well, keeping body temperature up and a plethora of other medical issues.
Sounds to me that this hospital just either wasn't educated enough on organ donation or they just didn't want to be bothered.
This is just my take, for I don't know all the facts, but I do know the the Gift of Life is ready 24/7 to retreive these life saving organs and they are much needed.
I am sorry that your husbands wishes were not unfilled. but you did everything you could to make it happen. I am sure he knows how hard you tried.
I hope you let the hospital know just what you posted.............that you felt like you lost him twice. Sometimes they need a wake-up to make then realize how their actions affect others.
It could be one of their love ones some day and i am sure they would not want to go through what you did.
God bless you and I am so sorry about your loss.
Judy