Thank you Jo and Donna.

I am trying to focus on taking back the marital home I have in my name. In case I should have to pay my in-laws one half the value of my house I checked on getting a mortgage to pay for that very thing. My bank said if I get what I'm hoping I can get from survivorship benefits I will qualify for a loan on the house to pay my in-laws. Someone told me I need to go back to Social Security and show them the webpage on their site where I read that I qualify for survivorship due to my disability. I would have thought that I made that clear but with the way I obsess about things I worry I did not. Now I just need to maybe wait the 3 weeks the SS lady said would take to hear from them. By time I get up there again I believe I might as well wait the 3 weeks instead of taking a chance of prolonging that. I'm on a time table with doing all of this before court with in-laws.