Do the surgery. I too was a mother of 2 sons when I decided to have the surgery and I am so glad I did. I went into remission for over 15 years. I was able to not only watch my sons grow into men but be a part of them growing up and being able to BE involved, go running, going to their graduations, wedding.. all of it and NOT be so weak I felt I was holding them back. Good luck with what you decide and know there are many out there in your shoes.