Its pretty simple actually. If the person is not acting the way you've always perceived and they tell you that they've had some health issues, then you gotta keep trying to fix it.

That's been my case. My parents have been very supportive. Its obvious that I am having problems. I can't even get out of bed. I don't enjoy anything about life. You don't just go from being an outgoing healthy enjoyable individual to a pity.

I've forced myself to stay in college throughout the pain and problems associated with what I think is a head injury. I've forced myself to get a job to survice, but I couldn't come to work on time because I'd be up at 3 am trying to fall asleep, or, I couldn't stay awake at work, or I couldn't concentrate, or I'd be thinking about how bad I feel and the fact I should trying to figure what my underlying health problem is. I don't do drugs, I've been alienated for a while. Its not hard to tell. I've been under psychiatric care. They can't even fix me and they know something is wrong. I don't mean to babble on, but you see my point. I USED to be a straight A student playing sports year round with endless amounts of friends. I USED to laugh all the time and have fun. Now I'm just in pain with fatigue and whatever else.

My point is if the person is well enough to have a girlfriend, work, still does what they want, then it doesn't seem like their still suffering. Eventually, you have to compare them to people like me. And, start to do what YOU think is best. Don't let empathy bite you in the behind.