Originally Posted by mrsD

Well, the bottom line in diagnosis is subjective with these disorders.

And they can be mixed.

I guess in your case Mel, it is enough to say, your son is manipulative (knows how to work "the system"), and self centered. His center is gambling and computers. You have to protect YOUR boundaries with him, and you have learned that.
The name for it really doesn't matter in the long run.

The name you put on that, may vary according to who one consults. I often wonder at Asperger's...and think it might be overused in some cases. Medicine is full of "fashionable" diagnoses which change to something else with time.