I'm sad for you.

You have a lot on you. We'll try to lighten the load a little for you.

I think my husband said, "I'd earned a lot of 'brownie points' for putting up with him all those years." 9 years and rollin' I know I'm not easy to live with most of the time, and these are much better than last year's times.

I'm up and down of the night -
want java early sometimes - 4:30 or 5:30 a.m. Seldom do I indulge, but I usually drop something.

I know I disturb him from a deep sleep... he can't find me for all the pillows...

I can't say it's been easy on him either. Not to mention the expense, which I've paid for.

I wonder how many points I had?

It's definitely caused some stress cracks and it definitely brought us closer in other ways.

I guess we should have a partner thread, where they can post for support.

I don't know your whole situation. "Four months short term disability" is not long.... not long enough to be sick and wreck a relationship, anyway. You're not alone here. There are others who can direct you better along the way.

Have you been sick for a while?

Are you able to do your activities of daily living? - bathing, cooking, medications...

If it is really over, I'm so sorry that this came at a bad time in your life. It's not supposed to be that way but so often is the case. Again, I'm sorry you're upset, and yes you do have reason to be emotional and fearful right now. Just take it one day at a time and do the best you can right now. You'll manage either way, with some help. It'll just be different now.


Make lists of things and mark your calendar so you won't forget appointments and items at the store.

Sometimes people can't handle sickness and sometimes people can be selfish and yet still love ya too. I'm sorry that you're hurting emotionally too.
And yes, I've seen disabled people find and grab onto love and things work well and I've seen the opposite. It's just bad when things are going wrong on two fronts.

Aikan "Aloha .... new here 3-27-09" has a post on here. She's gone through a lot too. Look her up on the forum.

I don't think stress is going to help things here, even though you have reason to be. It is a negative for healing.