Holly, have you already sat down with the hospice team that will be coming to your home?

That is really important. You need to really let them know what you need from them. If you want you role to not be of a caretaker, then you need to tell them and be sure they understand that. Or you won't get as mich help as you want.

We had hospice with my brother. I wasn't the one who talked to them. My parents did. HUGE mistake. They befriended the lady and thought she was so pretty and sweet. She sat and had coffe and snacks with my parents.

We ended up with zero help. They never did a thing for my brother. My sisters and I did. Everything.

The time I had with him was special. My role wasn't a nurse. That isn't what he wanted from me, but he did from 2 of my sisters. I wish they hadn't been put in that position.

It can be a beautiful and not scary experience for the whole family. The circle of life.