I'm glad you found this forum, QM.

I would remind you to encourage your DH to ask for small things that would comfort him. Sometimes when a caregiver cannot change huge things-like the amount of pain-there are small comforts they can help provide that can make so much difference in how well the person in pain can cope and will also help you feel like you have helped.

Your DBF is lucky to have you.

Hugs to you, Grandma Sue